One of my former students is working on a series titled "Dear 18 Year Old Me." He asked me if I'd be willing to throw my thoughts into the mix, and I welcomed the opportunity to pause and reflect. When I look back at the last 19 years, I've had a pretty good life. I have a beautiful family. We have a great home. I love what I do for a living. When it's all said and done, I'd have to say that things have worked out pretty well for me so far, but there are always things that we wish we would have done differently. There are things I wish I would have done better. There are things that I wish I wouldn't have done at all. There are things that I wish I never would have stopped doing. There are relationships that I wish I would have spent more time developing. If I could go back 19 years in time, I think this is what I would like to say to my 18-year-old self... Dear 18-year-old me, Learn to love to read NOW. Don't wait until your late 20's to reali
Seriously. I love learning. I wish I could say I have always been that way, but to be completely honest, I haven't. I was always very good at playing the game of "school," but I never had a genuine love for learning as I grew up. I was driven to do well by my desire to please my parents, my teachers, and my coaches, and I knew that if I wanted to "be successful" in life I had to "do well in school." I had what Dr. Carol Dweck would call a very "fixed mindset," and it stuck with me all the way through my college years. I was a good student, but I focused on achieving, not learning. I hated reading with a passion. Again, I was good at it (maybe just "good enough"), but I hated it. Being a double major in history and psychology was not good for someone who hated reading, but I managed to survive. Thankfully, I had a few professors who were masterful presenters that could keep my attention, and I had the motivation of my football coac